Women (Marriage) Horror Stories
don't mean to be so negative, but since the agencies are going to feed
you the lovey-dovey stories of romance and love, I will show you the
true reality of marrying a woman belonging to the culture that caused
SO many anti-scam web sites to appear... FSU women!!!!!
(The names have been hidden to protect the unfortunate.) Are Russians
happy? Find out here.
Horror Story #14 (Oct,
I have not looked at one of the scam websites or FSU dating websites
for several years and just happened to find your scam website. I read
the letter to you written by the guy married to a Ukraine
makes me sick. Sounds like my wife. We've been
1/2 years and have a child. I would not give you two cents
wife. These gals look nice, but are something else. What a
nightmare. If my marriage does not last, I will not even
one of these gals again. It's not worth it. My
a sweetheart and is the only thing keeping me home. I wish
guys would just walk away, look for someone elsewhere, get a dog or
Horror Story #13
Well writing this I think is probably more surprising to me than it is
I married Yelena through a close business friend, she was from Moscow,
I thought I was beating the system by getting a personal introduction
instead of the marriage agency.
Extremely beautiful and a great orgasmic fuck. The Blonde Heroin from
If you can imagine that she was cheating on me from day one, for 9
years of marriage, and 2 beautiful boys aged 9 and 7 now.
She had her boyfriends on the side, and used me for support. "Who cares
about sex it's just physical." (that was about her last 2 year long
affair with her personal trainer).
I believed her profusely emotional claims of undying loyalty, swearing
up and down on our sons health of her fidelity. I didn't nail her until
I traced the email on her computer finally and hired an investigator.
She was siphoning money to support her boyfriends apartment, she had
clothes over there, and she lied to fit every story, then lied to fit
the next set of facts.
Her mom was helping her, how to lie and behave. It was impossible to
tell who was talking, her or her mom.
Here's a gem for you, to her boyfriend/trainer :
<10:05 AM>It's totally fine Nicky pie. ALiona's never
problem for 4 u and will never be. The beauty of having me around is
that not only am I a great fuck, but I'm also a very understanding,
sweet an AND generous human being. U r afraid of yr waitress, well,
what can one do? I'll c u on Sunday at 11am. Good-bye.
I know now about AT LEAST 5 other men she has dated over the years she
was married to me.
I guess that the point of this email is 1) Russian women have less than
zero morals. 2) Russian people despise stupid romantic North Americans.
3) They are absolutely shameless in their deceptive strategies. 4) They
want only one thing, everything.
If you have even 10% of a moral fibre in your being and can be
persuaded to believe even the smallest detail, then you are no match
for a beautiful russian woman. I am a very smart guy. I saw all the red
flags. Controlling, excuses, they will tell you anything you want to
hear. We are simply no match.
When I caught her out FINALLY I said"Tell me the truth!" She said "
What will you give me for the truth?" Those were her exact words. They
are burned into my soul for eternity.
You see her letter to her boyfriend where she claims she is a sweet
human being? She actually believes she is. She thinks she is the
hottest thing on the face of the planet. If anyone reading your site
can be persuaded to stay away from a Russian woman imported from Russia
then listen up boys. Marry one, and be prepared to have your head
handed back to you in a paper bag.
Horror Story #12
Mine is a Horror story that begin in 2005 by Wroting to
Tatyana Dyomina Thru
Anastasiaweb.com. I wrote this woman for several months before making
the trip to Nikolaev ,Ukraine to
see her. Tatyana was so pleasant to be around so warm and
caring that I fell in love with her.
I arrived in Nikolaev in October 2005,We were
Married December 3rd and I stayed in
the Ukraine with her untill we couls returen together in May
I am retired military and not a particularly rich man, I used my life
savings for this trip an amount of 30,000
dollars. When Tatyana and I returned to America the trouble started as
soon as we got home.
I have a small but lovely brand new threebedroom home in
Tatyana wanted an apartment in the city preferably on
I introduced Tatyana to our Russian community here thru various Russian
in our area, So she would have Russian speaking friends to ease any
homesickness she might feel.
I purchased several Russian speaking News and Entertainment channels
off the Satelite T.V. provider. Nothing helped.
Tatyana was not happy with America , my home and started
her attention on English classes and obtaining her drivers liscense.
She Told me the people at her Russian speaking church were helping her
to Obtain that drivers liscense
and advising her to start her own bank account.She told me they were
advising her on how to be happy in America.
The advise they gave Tatyana was to find a good Russian boy to
marry and Steal everything from her husband she
her hands on.
The church advised Tatyana the only way she could stay in America and
material and monetary support from her husband was to file Domestic
charges.The INS will allow abused foreign wives to stay in
America where a divorce
before 2yrs is an automatic false marraige and return to
Ukraine.What Follows is
the letter prepared by attorney for the INS office
located in Boise, Idaho.
Regarding Tetyana **** Resident card number A#057-189-321
Canyon County Case Number: CR-07-13413-C
Tetyana **** who is still on two year green card.
Tatyana Divorced her husband after 18 months of Marraige to immediately
Her Russian Speaking Boyfriend. Tetyana was engaged to this boyfriend
papers had been filed. All charges of domestic battery against her
Husband were dropped.
(Material Witness) Natasha Mote of long beach California has direct
Tetyana **** and has heard all of this thru Tetyana,s own lips. Life
of Tetyana for over 22 years.Tetyana and Natasha grew up together in
Ukraine .Phone number in Long Beach ****.She will not want to testify
against her friend and has passed all information along to Tetyana's
phone conversations. Natasha's husband has money and has already
Natasha is asked to Testify he would send her home to Ukraine to visit
her family till this case blows over.
Tetyana entered into a false Marraige December 3rd 2005, convincing her
loved him but only wanting a visa to the United States. After her
arrival in the
U.S. in May of 2006 she immediately set about finding contacts with the
Russian Speaking community in Ada and Canyon Counties thru Russian
in Meridian and the other Russian speaking people at the Walmart store
worked to aide her in gainning a divorce that would allow her to stay
in the U.S.
Tetyana met Irena Rayburn in October 2006, while working at Walmart.
Tetyana and her
husband attended several dinners and holidays at Irena,s house where
Tetyana met the
man she now lives with and plans to marry as soon as her divorce is
would see this man on the sly as often as possible back as far as
January of 2007.
When the marraige seemed to Tetyana to be nearing divorce, Irena
Rayburn, The Fiance
and Tetyana came up with a plan. Irena has been thru several divorces
in America and
she and Tetyana both knew that divorce before two years is considered a
marraige by immigration and the girl would be deported. They also knew
that a charge
of domestic battery would allow Tetyana to stay in America and attempt
everything the husband owned in the divorce setting them up for a nice
America.The plan was to waite untill Tetyana got her secound green card
in May of 2008.
When the husband confronted Tetyana concerning her affair with this man
his intention to get a divorce from Tetyana in June of 2007, Tetyana
Their plan into action. She called the Police and had the husband
arrested on a false battery charge.
While the husband was forced to stay away from his home under a
Tetyana and her now fiance (engaged to marry before the divorce papers
systematically emptied the husbands house of everything of value and
which they did not take against the instructions of the divorce papers
June, before the husband could regain possesion of his house.
The possesions gained were spread out amongst the three conspirators.
This is a case of a Russian Speaking Immigrant planning the emotional
destruction of an American for personal gain thru false marraige,false
battery charges , theft and vandalism.
Horror Story #11 (Dec,
I wasn't scammed by an agency, but I married a Russian girl, (from
Moscow) was married to her for 5 years, I'll never make that mistake
She makes American girls seem like the best girls in the world as far
as I'm concerned.
You wouldn't, (or maybe you would) believe the things I could tell you
I have met other Russian girls as well over here, I'm not even remotely
impressed. I met one Ukrainian girl in San Diego, my home town, yes she
was hot, no doubt about that, but she was a first class nutcase. She
went on and one about how great she was, how she knew everything, how
she helped people so much, how pretty she was, etc etc etc, I have
never met any girls like that before in my life, an absolute nutcase!
My girl was a different kind of nutcase, the most selfish human being
I've ever met before in my life.
I'm a good looking guy, very athletic, very smart, very successful, I'm
no loser, my wife was 9 years younger than me.
The girl was the biggest slob I ever met in my life, and I'm not
joking! She would NEVER clean, period, end of conversation! Jim, I know
this is gross and disgusting, and I apoligize for telling you this, but
she wouldn't even wash her own clothes, not even in 6 months. Don't
believe me? Her mother would come visit from Moscow all the time and
she would do her clothes for her, and clean for her, Natasha, my girl,
would NEVER do it herself! Oh she could cook when she wanted to, and
she was a good cook, and she dressed really super sharp all the time,
no doubts about that, but she never washed her underwear.
Let me ask you a question Jim ok? Have you ever seen what a toilet
looks like when you don't wash it for 6 months? I have, but until I met
her I had never seen one before. Why didn't I wash it myself? Well, for
one thing I got tired of doing that, for another thing she had her
toilet and I had mine, hers was more filthy than you want me to
describe to you, trust me.
Oh but she has the expensive clothes, expensive everything, but she is
the most selfish person and the biggest slob I ever met before in my
I am so happy it's all over with now and I can finally move on with my
life, you wouldn't believe the stories I could tell, from her giving
herself bruises, calling the police and lying that I beat her up, to
things I don't even want to think about anymore.
After what I've been through I would never in a million years look for
a Russian girl, you can find a decent American girl if you look hard
enough, and every American girl I've ever been with is a thousand times
better than the Russian girl I was married to.
Very ironic, what I thought would be the best girl in the world turned
out to be by far the worst girl I've ever met in my life, by a thousand
When I look back on my relationships with all the American girls I've
been with, they all seem so good now, finding love at home is not an
easy thing to do, finding love 10,000 miles away is basically
But there is nore to it then that. My girl for instance was a
University Graduate, she studied languages and history, she spoke
English fluently, she spoke Czech and Italian fluently. She brought
with here some 500 to 1000 books, 50 boxes worth, something like one
ton of boxes, cost like $1,500 to ship them to the USA.
In my perception, based upon what I could see, this girl was very
intelligent, much more so then some ordinary girl, not what anybody in
the USA would consider "trailer trash", right?
So how is it somebody like this could have such horrible filthy habits?
From which planet did she come from? Have you ever met a girl like that
here in the USA? I haven't, I've never met any girl even remotely close
to that, on the contrary, girls here are very clean, at least the ones
that I know are and the ones I go out with are and always have been.
And it's so much more then just her hygiene, forget that she needed
like 5K in dental work, who cares, I'm talking about her personality,
she could speak perfect English, understood every word, knew how to say
virtually anything she wanted to say, yet she never talked. She never
talked about anything of any substance whatsoever, she never would try
to resolve problems in any fashion whatsoever.
She would go from being nice one day to the worse possible mood the
next, like a constant yo-yo over and over again, it's not just tiring,
I was afraid of her, she would think nothing of calling the police and
flat out lying through her teeth to get me into trouble, in total she
called the police on me 3 times. Each time completely lying, the first
two times that I beat her up, the 3rd time that I yelled at her.
If you met this girl you would think she is so sweet, so nice, so
classy, so very very sweet, that's why I liked her. Not because she was
super hot, she was a nice looking girl, I was 32, she was 23, I liked
her because she was so "sweet", no very nice to me, and so smart.
Little did I know that it could be possible to be so different. I mean,
don't get me wrong, I've been with some real winner girls, one of them
was a hot blonde, very nice, but she was a tramp, loved to sleep with
every guy, and make the previous guy jealous, got off on that.
But she never screwed me over, I mean, sure she slept with some other
guy, even took off with him, but she wasn't stone cold hearted like my
Russian girl was.
No American girl I've ever been with has been like her, not even close,
she is like a walking plague, a radioactive candy that everyone wants
to lick, all the while not knowing they are licking poison.
Many hot looking American girls are just stuck up, and they are what
many would call "bitches", but this Russian girl goes far beyond any
"bitch", she is a cunning, devious, malicious, cold hearted, no holds
barred, screw you over and you better thank me and love me for it woman.
After having gotten a divorce from her I feel like I just got out of
prison, now finally I'm a free man.
What was that story I read on your site? About the guy going to
Ukraine, meeting with a girl, who chain smokes, drinks like a fish, and
her bio said she did neither one, and him having to pay for everything
while the girl takes the left over's and gives them to a worker at the
agency, and then they leave in a car in which he again has to pay for,
and he's left on the street by himself and he's thinking there is a big
huge "sucker" sign above his head.
I guess it's our own faults, we buy into the fantasy, and we have no
idea what's about to happen to us, or what we're about to go through.
If we want fantasy I think it's best we stick to Fantasy Island, cause
the only fantasy you're going to find overseas is cold hard reality of
how this world really works. Yes I could do it much better this second
time around, but I know that even if you could find the right girl,
there are so many other problems and expenses it's just not worth it.
Better to find a nice American girl, one who you can date and get to
know, one who has a job and makes some money, one who you'll find out
in a year or two if you're relationship is good enough to get married.
From the stories I've read, from the Russian girls I've met who are
over here in the USA, I'd have to say something is wrong with them. I
did meet one girl, she was nice looking, not gorgeous, she had a
daughter, my girl said she was dumb, but to me she seemed very nice,
very talkative, very friendly, wanted to show me photos, smiled, she
didn't speak English too well but you could talk with her, just not
fluently like my girl or that Ukraine girl I told you about.
She is the only one I've met though that truly seemed like a nice girl,
all the others were seriously messed up in my opinion.
I think the scam is not an agency, but the whole idea itself, these
girls don't want to find a man to love, give me a break, they want a
visa, a citizenship, they want money, and they think they are so great
that they deserve everything. They think you should treat them like
princesses, giving them gifts all the time, flowers all the time, doing
everything for them all the time, giving them attention all the time,
they give the term "high maintenance" a whole new meaning!
For me marrying a Russian girl was the biggest nightmare of my life,
from the very beginning to the very end.
Now I look back on my relationships with the American girls I've been
with and have great memories of them. Now I look at the girls who look
back at me in the grocery store and think to myself, that girl is a
good girl, nothing wrong with her at all, she is cute, she dresses
nice, why not just go up to her and talk with her, ask her out, ask her
for a drink, ask her for her phone number, what is she going to say?
No? I can deal with a no, it's no big deal at all, in fact, it's easy,
on to the next girl.
What on Gods green earth ever made me think of going 10,000 miles away,
spending a small fortune on getting a Russian girl I'll never know,
except of course to say it was the "fantasy", a loving, caring,
feminine, intelligent, family values, type girl. Well guess what,
that's very hard to find, and going 10,000 miles away with a different
culture, different language, makes it a thousand times more difficult.
USA is a big country, there are all kinds of nice friendly girls in
this country, you can meet them, date them, have fun with them if you
really want to.
I learned my lesson, I just wish it didn't have to cost me so much
money, and so much of my time.
Horror Story # 10 (July,
Excellent site you have! I wish I'd known about it some years ago.
Anastasia or Anastasiya ****. Also goes by ****
Don't have an address or phone number anymore. Last report I got from a
investigator said she was registered in Moscow but likely living with
her mom in a place called Novgrod.
Miracle83@yandex.ru so far as I can tell this email address
is still active
She contacted me after I posted a profile on an international dating
site in 2002. I
did do some research at the time and was aware of the usual stuff to
watch for (too
good to be true, asking for money etc) and she did none of that. She
even picked a
fight with me in an email relatively early on which was likely part of
This one is brilliant and knows how to play the game like nobody I've
ever heard of.
Within a couple of months she convinced me that we were a perfect match
and I should
come to Russia to meet her. Since it costs a fortune to take such a
trip and I could
never have her visit me in Canada (visitor visa's are very tough to get
women from Russia) there was only one way for me to hang onto this
perfect girl.. I
married her while I was there in December of 2002. The frequency of her
emails to me
dropped from 4-5 a week to about 2 per week after I came back from
She quit her job 2 weeks after I returned home due to needing to devote
all of her
time to dealing with the government there to fix a paperwork mistake
(that she no
doubt intentionally made) on one of the application forms for a Spousal
visa and some nonsense to do with her passport. I was in love so I
even though it set off an alarm bell. I started paying her way which at
the time was
$300 US per month. She manged to continue to make mistakes that caused
application to be sent back to me and this dragged on for 8 months
before I was ever able to finally file the application.
She wrote me a long story about how a crack dealer who lived in her
to break into her apartment threatening to kill her and thus she needed
to move to
safer part of town so I paid for that and then of course her months
expenses went up
to $500 US. In June of 2004 the embassy had scheduled a physical for
Immigration and she mysteriously came down with some disease the name
of which I
could never get a result for that crippled and left her in bed for 3
delayed the physical for 6 months. I bought her a computer at great
she later sold to pay for some medical emergency for her mom and then
I but her a new one. Each month she found some new way to create
that amounted to me sending her $750 per month on average with large
sums in between
to cover things like trips to Moscow for multiple medical exams for
It took 3 years, 3 physicals, and approximately $40,000 US for me to
finally get her
approved as somehow she kept making what looked like innocent mistakes
and procedures to do with Immigration even though I explained
everything to her
dozens if not hundreds of times. For 3 long years I kept shelling out
the money and
waiting because she kept talking about this great wonderful future we
going to have together when it was all over. When the approval finally
made a seperate trip to Moscow to get her visa and then was to fly here
to me a week
later. I sent her $2500 for the trip to get here. She emailed me the
morning she was
supposed to arrive saying that they had not let her board the plane as
there was a
problem with her visa but she was able to get them to give her another
the same time a week later for half price so I sent her another $1500.
During that long long last week I was in touch with someone from the
Embassy in Moscow about this supposed Visa problem which they made very
clear to me
did not exist. I forwarded their comments to her as evidence to use if
to stop her from boarding the next plane ( out of last minute
desperation to finally
have this dream come true ) and she sent me back a reply babbling about
how I would
only send her such comments if I wanted to break her heart. That was
the last I ever
heard from her and of course she was NOT on the plane when it landed
At this point I finally hired an investigator to go find out where she
was and he
uncovered that she had been living a very different life than she had
me. She had bought a car, and everything else that most Russians simply
afford to do on my dime and never said a word. She had left the
apartment she was
registered to a week before she claimed to be taking the first flight
here and never
gone back. She lived with her mom for that 3 years and although the PI
she told the government she would be living in Moscow, her mom was
living in Novgrod and no trace of my wife was ever found in Moscow.
That is the extremely short version of the story. As a special ending,
refused to grant me a divorce from her in Russia because she could not
be found to
get her permission unless I agreed to pay him $500 US for this
"service" of doing
his job. I told him no and as her visa is expired and she can't enter
the Country, I
know I'll never have to deal with her coming to Canada, but at the same
time I'll never be completely free of her.
She tricked me into coming there and marrying her so that I would
support her while
she screwed with Immigration forms to make sure the case took as long
as possible to
be finalized. This is to me the ultimate cold hearted scam. If any man
learn a lesson from what happened to me, then I guess it was not for
There was never any agency involved in our contact so far as I know.
She told me she
found me through one and then used an internet cafe to email me. I
agency to rent an apartment from while I was in Russia and their
service was excellent.
It has been almost 2 years since this saga ended so I no longer have
copies of all
the emails and money transfers. I do hope that you will still share my
story and her
picture with your audience as this woman is a walking nightmare.
Horror Story # 9 (June,
This story is not actually a
horror story. It is very insightful. Click here to read it.
Horror Story #8 (Feb
... I married a woman from Ukraine Dec, 03. To make a long
short, I believe the marriage is a fraud and that she did so to get her
I can list chapter and verse what she has put me
through. Bottom line
...she has taken everything she can from me. I am virtually
broke. I filed
for divorce last May 24th and got to court Dec 13th. She said
she would do it
easy... but that as well is a lie. She is still trying to get
more ... which I don't have.
I was postponed until Jan 24th so that I could get a lawyer/
turned, I was denied. I call USCIS and lodged a complaint
that the marriage is
a fraud and why ... they said they would investigate but have heard
yet. I have until Feb 21st to go back to court with a
lawyer. She got one thru
Legal Services of Westchester-Putnam Counties so they turned me
am told they should not have done so, that they are ONLY a referral
And it seems HER lawyer will come after me for fees even though she is
pro-bono to her.
Horror Story #7
(Jan 2007 -
yet another familiar story about Ukraine girls. They don't only want a
few thousands bucks. They want to marry, file abuse charges and get
everything you have. )
I married **** in 1998
after we courted on phone for two months and she came to
visit. We married quickly.
suicide the third month of our marriage despite having no real reason
other than to try and manipulate me. Mind you she is drop
gorgeous. I had a son from a prior marriage and she
to treat him like a nanny. I said "fake it until you feel it
we divorce". She faked it and I thought she felt it.
using the system to have a baby. She never asked
me. At a
point she became so blindingly selfish and rude to my son that I told
her baby doctor no more attempts until my wife got help. The
is she didn't want help.
She wanted a
baby and to
leave me. I thought this could be true as she would start arguments
that really only she would have and blame me for anything that bothered
her, only to use the word "divorce" all the time.
down for a year. I agreed to the baby. The day he
she said, "I cannot love your son anymore."
horror that a
boy that grew up and thought he had a mother only to have her stop
loving him. Later she said in bed one night, "I wish I only
married 6 years now and I had spent in excess of 100,000.00 on her
behalf over the years. From two time shares, to extended
warrantees on her car, to trip abroad to see her family in
Ukraine. I was the perfect husband. When her
here in the US refused to throw her baby shower, I did. So as
spent, she saved.
son (my second
son) was a year old she filed a bogus Protection From Abuse order in
Delaware on me. I was out of my home where my business
my employee couldn't go to work and my first son couldn't go home
either as she wanted nothing to do with him. I had to live
my parents for four months while I begged for personal belongings from
my home. After four months I flipped the PFA as the courts
learned the truth about her. Then I promptly began the process of
vacating my PFA so we could get back to
heal the family. I did it for the children.
next year I
get anonymous faxes and text messages from her place of work JP Morgan
Bank warning of her having an affair and a trip she moved up by two
week coincided with a co-workers trip abroad too.
Worse yet I
catch her because I confronted her too soon. Four months
she filed for divorce and went straight back to her plan of taking our
son and living alone with him. If you've seen the movie
where the mother wants just a child and NOTHING else in life, this is
**** ****. Eventually we wound up back in court where she
gamed the legal system over and over even filing a PFA against my 75
year old parents in an effort to keep them away from their three year
old grandchild for the next year. They were found not guilty
the case was dismissed on it's merits and she is still clawing for the
boy by lying to church congregations about me, and our
history. She did agree in cross PFA's with myself
December of 2006 to yield custody of our son to me and the house
too. However since then she swears she is broke and can't pay
child support while buying $6,000.00 fur coats in New York and
$1,200.00 foam mattresses among other luxury items.
I found out
only two weeks before she filed for divorce she hyphenated her name
three years prior without telling me.
My point is
Duplicity can be a long term road a scammer will travel to get what
they want. I was told by her that she loved me and she
her last husband because he was in the Russian mob. She has a
bullet wound in her right arm to make that case. But I really
don't even know if she has a criminal record in Ukraine of if she is
Now she is
trying to get
permission to take our 3 year old son to Ukraine for a "visit" and I'm
fearful I may never see my son again.
Good luck in
who you meet
and better luck in who you decide to trust. I had
signs all throughout but I am an American man with family values. My
parents have been married over 50 years, I wanted that same dream to
come true and fought for it only to find that a Russian woman that
wants to scam you, will get you in the end. She has sworn me
mortal enemy and I must say I'm really afraid of her.
Horror Story #6 (May
The end of a long letter about a girl that kept requesting small
amounts of money, saying 'I love you' and throwing up red flags left,
right and centre.)
Tanya is a real
person. A person can get very attached via webcam. Tanya and
I had made a connection because of the webcam,
I believe it was genuine, I
could see it in
her eyes! I will never know, but my gut tells me she was
talking to other men (as of yesterday she insists she was not and is
not)..... I think we are both at fault. I
wanted to believe in the Russian
tale that is all over the internet, and she wanted to believe in
the American Prince in the White Castle fairy
tale that must be predominent
Russia.......but one thing is very clear to me. She wanted someone to
support her and she didn't even feel obliged
to say 'thank you' for
Imagine what it would have been like if I had trusted her
and someday brought her to America!.........Gentlemen, wake up and quit
smelling the Russian pussy! Fairy
tales are for books and
movies...............Jim, thank you for this website!!!!
Horror Story #5 (Apr
I am writing on
behalf of my brother, who for legal reasons should remain
now. He met a Russian woman through a legitimate agency last
year. I will
also not divulge the name of the agency although I can say that
reports it to be legitimate. Here is how the scam works and why it
is so dangerous.
In my brother's
case the woman he dated did ask for money to be sent to her
things including English lessons, dental repair and general
is where it's similarity to traditional scams ends because
she did travel
to the US and did marry my brother. This would seam to make
legitimate however after the marriage ceremony everything changed.
showed no emotion or interest in my brother as a partner. She did
not kiss him
back during the ceremony, and then she would not consummate the
did have sexual relations with him twice before the marriage,
the first time
in Russia when they met the second time in the US when she
before they were married. While here in the US she continued to
spend a great
deal of my brother's money. Other suspicious behavior she
included dropping his digital camera that he had been taking
pictures of her
with in the water. When he brought memory disks to the photo
shop to have
the photos developed but found out they had been partially
preventing the photos from being developed. She also attempted to
photos off his computer. Other things she deleted were emails
sent to a
friend in Russia and written in Russian. This is where it becomes
After being married to became a different person and began
brother in a seemingly malicious manner. For instance she
did not simply
refuse to consummate the marriage, she would instead tease my
berating him and letting him know she would not have sex with
him. It seamed
she was attempting to get him angry, possibly to get him to
My brother is NOT a violent person by nature so when her
attempts to get
him to become violent failed she became violent herself. She
picked up his
computer and threw it to the floor; she began hitting him and
She even tried to gouge his eyes out with her fingers. She
attacked him to
the point where he had to defend himself and then had him
Up until the
point where she became violent my brother continued to practice
her hoping to salvage what he thought was a legitimate
His patience was his own demise in the end because eventually
he was forced
to defend himself. Now my brother sought to have the marriage
annulled but to
no avail, his divorce attorney advised him that his state
does not grant
annulments. He did find out though through his attorney and
agency that brought them together that recently this has become
a problem with
a number of Russian women seeking to remain in the US without
marriage vows. There are a few other similar cases like his
in his own
state according to his attorney and the agency has reported that
receiving similar reports about other women who did travel to the
US and marry
the men who were courting them. It appears they are trying to
of a loophole in the immigration laws which state that if
they are abused
by their husbands they cannot be deported.
The problem is
that good men who are otherwise non-violent are being charged
crimes against their spouse(s), some of which will spend time
in jail or
My advice to
any man who marries a woman from Russia who changes her
after arriving and especially after being married is to waste no
time in getting
her out of his home. Do not try to salvage the relationship,
do not try to
win her heart over, and do not give her the chance to accuse
him of being
violent against her. These women know what they are doing and
intention of honoring their marriage, only to remain in the US and
they do not
care who they hurt to do so. I further suggest that he not be
alone with her,
especially when he moves her out of his home. If she
suspects she is
to be kicked out she may become violent in the hopes that he
will have to
physically defend himself.
Please if you
could post this warning for other men to see, post it as an
for the men who might be experiencing a problem such as the
one I have
described. Also if you have any information on similar cases
it to me or tell me where I might find it. These women must
their information on how to do this somewhere and if I can find
just one source
I may be able to save my brother from being further
this woman and by the system.
I am not
including any pictures or the name of this woman yet for fear that
doing so could
appear to incriminate my brother. If you can assure me that
it is safe to
send her information I will be happy to do so with my
permission. (Although she attempted to delete her photos and email
computer she forgot to check the trash bin)
Horror Story #4 (Dec
I met my Russian Wife through
an internet web site around 4.5 years ago. We traded a lot of emails
and after some time I started to phone her … Her English was
perfect, she was very intelligent and we had great communication.
I invited her to the
arranged a week abroad to allow us to get to know each other better
and relax in good surroundings.
I have to say I was impressed with almost
everything about this woman and after further visits to the
I paid for) she explained that the only way to actually leave
was through marriage. I eventually asked her to marry me.
She accepted and she moved to the
At first all was well
….Then … the
complaints started and the demands grew. Nothing was good enough,
everything was wrong, I couldn’t do anything right. The
personality change within just a few months after the wedding was
unbelievable. She offered no communication or cooperation to resolve
issues, her complaints just kept on coming.
I mentioned Divorce on a number
of occasions in the hope that it may jolt her into resolving problems
rather than ignoring them but the word “Divorce”
had an adverse effect as the complaints intensified and the problems in
our marriage reached another level.
My life had become a mess, I
couldn’t stand the atmosphere any longer and I called to see
a solicitor for advice then onto the local Court to collect Divorce
papers in the hope that once she realised that I was serious she may
start to communicate and make some attempt to help me to sort out our
lives and save our marriage. Nothing happened, no reaction, no response
I contacted the UK home office
for guidance and advice on the situation as her visa had little time to
run on the initial 2 years marriage visa and was instructed that I
could not sponsor her for the renewal of her visa to gain
“indefinite leave to remain “ visa status unless
(a) the marriage was subsisting (b) we intended to live together
indefinitely as man and wife. I was warned that if I didn’t
comply with the immigration rules and signed her visa application I
would then be committing a criminal act and could face very serious
charges with possible imprisonment as a penalty.
Friends were now coming forward
claiming that she had told them that the only reason she came to the
to prevent the Russian Army from conscripting her son and to
provide him with a better education in the
I didn’t enter into the equation for her wanting to come to
I felt very cheated,
disappointed and used. I couldn’t believe that the detraction
on my life had become so severe and painful when I should have been the
happiest man in the world having found what I originally believed to be
the most fantastic woman I had ever known.
I had no alternative but to
file for divorce on grounds of unreasonable behaviour and I filed the
papers with the Court accordingly.
Within a few days of the Court
Bailiff serving the divorce papers on my wife I was arrested by the
Police on allegations of domestic violence! I was thrown in a cell,
detained overnight, released on Bail the following morning and told to
go home. I dare not go home for fear that my wife may add even more
false charges to the 3 she had already alleged.
The charges she made are false
and without evidence of any assault, no medical proof
….nothing! But as soon as allegations are made the Police
provide the RW with a paper stating they had made an arrest then she
can self petition the Home Office for a permanent UK Visa.
I have pleaded not guilty to
all the allegations in the local court but the “domestic
violence industry“has now jumped on the band wagon and wont
let go. So now I have to go to high court and face a full jury and if
found guilty of a crime I didn’t commit I could face a
terrible penalty and have to pay all costs, lose my job, self respect
and financial ruin.
By the time this reaches a
conclusion it will be almost a year of stress for me yet it appears to Russian Women
that no length or suffering is too great to get a
they simply see the Legal Loophole as a means to an end to get a
visa rather than go back to
I am amazed that it is so easy
to get information on “What to do if your husband
doesn’t sign your visa” which are openly
illustrated on the internet including the British Home Office website.
They virtually tell them what to do to get the visa to stay in the
Be warned, that despite how
beautiful these women are, and how attentive and good natured they
seem. The visa is paramount in their mind and once they have used you
to get it, they will either move on amicably or file for divorce taking
as much of your estate as possible with them! A husband may deny them
the visa through a divorce within the initial 2 years of the marriage
but do so at your peril!!
I have read stories very
similar to my own from people in Australia and America, I just wish to
God that I had seen them before I married, and maybe I
wouldn’t be in this terrible situation now.
Story #3 (Nov 2005)
I wrote you a few months ago
with my horror story and divorce from a
You've probably read thousands of mails since
then but I
still wanted to give you a
follow-up in hopes the info.
someone else or reveal some
info. you haven't already heard before.
The now ex wife wanted to claim
abuse here but thought the attorney
would cost too much (she is an
attorney). She went back to Russia and
filed for divorce. I received the russian
divorce decree with english
translation and apostille so it
is finished. She
began looking for the
next husband before the divorce
ended and got married to a UK guy two
I sent all my fraud allegations
in the form of an affadavit to the UK
embassy, US Embassy, USA
Immigration field office, and the UK
Immigration office. The UK office said they
will investigate but most
probably since the marriage is
already registered they won't do anything.
The "ex" went from me... a
western professional with high education (me)
to the UK guy that had no high
education and was a day laborer. Age
husband two was within two
years of my age.
I wrote a 19 page letter to the
former russian relatives (handwritten
Of course they were offended as I knew they
I will always be the foreigner so they thought
all I said was lies
and couldn't believe their
relative or her mother
would ever be
They think of me now as a pile of feces or "a
the lower regions."
The same reason I went to
to find a wife still exists. The family
structure in the West has
collapsed along with morality. I
at a couple of russian women
sites again and then immediately thought
about all the personal hurt I
just went through. I immediately went to
your site and read through the
horror and divorce pages again. It
Thanks so much for your page
and the information you provide. If
anything, it seems too
would have been my life's dream
to find one of those "super
sweet" girls with non-russian character you
is a big haystack and I only have one lifetime
find the needle. Certainly, it's not enough
time to sort through all
Horror Story #2 (Oct
Ok. About 2 years ago I met a
lady Sasha Grigorieva on the Internet
thorough **** agency. We met and she applied for
visa and passport.
Once we were approved she did
not want to return home to
Kafkas for the 4
month wait? I rented her a flat in Portvino near Moscow.
We came to Colorado 4 months
later and her first words were "why is your
house so small, where are the
Then within days a lot of
Russian people started calling and coming over to
her. She said they are friends who happened to move here.
had to get married within 90 days after landing here. Sasha, her son
Yaroslav and myself went to Las
Vegas and got married. Eight days later she
No sign of her except she has
contacted 2 of my neighbors with a Russian
to say they saw us married. (the neighbors
refused/not enough proof , you
must live with sponsor)
The victim here is the little
boy Yaroslav, who just wanted a dad; also
heard the little boy spent a
month in hospital because of this.
was called and I did get an annulment. I.N.S
said this happens all
the time and do not be
surprised if she claims that you beat her to
here. (since annulment means
marriage never existed).
Story #1 (summer, 2005)
My name is **** and here is my
I lived and worked
(big Russian city),
5 years at the ****,
a Canadian Russian Joint
I meet a lot of Russian women there, fell in
love with one and
brought her back to
where we married and worked together
After 7 years of being together, 5 years married,
she left me 3 times
with only a note on the table.
Her and her young son (not mine) flew back to Russia
twice with one way
weeks after leaving she would
phone me and want to
return to me,
being the big dummy that I am, I sent money for
Dec 21, 2005 she left the third note,
Three months before
her citizenship, she now lives with a Russian man
She never called for 3 weeks,
when I finnally found her, she wanted to
return, but only if I drove there to pick her
I have sent
out the divorce papers already
was not a agency scam, I worked with and lived with her in Russia
for 2 years before
we moved to
I do believe that it all has to do with culture and
The only advice I have to any
men looking for wives is stay away from
Russian women. Keep your Money and Heart, because they will take
Any comments that you have would be great appreciated.
Here is more;
the 5 years in
(big Russian city), I know of at least 10 men who
of the 10 marriages
Only one is still married and
as 2 children
3 men including my self, wives
have left but are still in country, with
the other 6 men,
all their wives went back to russia
, most went just
for a visit,
but never to return
sad thing is most of these guys had to divorce with their Canadian/
wife first, before marrying the Russian. I
personal, was not married
before going over
None of these were agency
The women are all sweet and gorgeous, and fun in
bed, but do not trust
They all have a serious
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