Foreign Women (Marriage) Horror Stories

I don't mean to be so negative, but since the agencies are going to feed you the lovey-dovey stories of romance and love, I will show you the true reality of marrying a woman belonging to the culture that caused SO many anti-scam web sites to appear... FSU women!!!!!
(The names have been hidden to protect the unfortunate.) Are Russians happy? Find out here. 

Horror Story #14 (Oct, 2009)

Hi Jim,
I have not looked at one of the scam websites or FSU dating websites for several years and just happened to find your scam website. I read the letter to you written by the guy married to a Ukraine gal.  It makes me sick.  Sounds like my wife.  We've been married 4 1/2 years and have a child.  I would not give you two cents for my wife.  These gals look nice, but are something else. What a nightmare.  If my marriage does not last, I will not even consider one of these gals again.  It's not worth it.  My daughter is a sweetheart and is the only thing keeping me home.  I wish these guys would just walk away, look for someone elsewhere, get a dog or something else.
Best Regards,
****

Horror Story #13 (Aug, 2009)

Horror Story #12 (Jan, 2008)

Jim
Mine is a Horror story that begin in 2005  by Wroting to Tatyana Dyomina Thru
Anastasiaweb.com. I wrote this woman for several months before making the trip to Nikolaev ,Ukraine to
see her. Tatyana was so pleasant to be around  so warm and caring that I fell in love with her.
I arrived in Nikolaev  in  October 2005,We were Married December 3rd and I stayed in
the Ukraine with her  untill we couls returen together in May of 2006.
I am retired military and not a particularly rich man, I used my life savings for this trip an amount of 30,000
dollars. When Tatyana and I returned to America the trouble started as soon as we got home.
I have a small but lovely  brand new threebedroom home in Idaho. Tatyana wanted an apartment in the city  preferably on Mainstreet.
I introduced Tatyana to our Russian community here thru various Russian speaking churchs
in our area, So she would have Russian speaking friends to ease any homesickness she might feel.
I purchased several Russian speaking News and Entertainment channels off the Satelite T.V. provider. Nothing helped.
Tatyana was not happy with America  , my home and started focusing her attention on English classes and obtaining her drivers liscense.
She Told me the people at her Russian speaking church were helping her to Obtain that drivers liscense
and advising her to start her own bank account.She told me they were advising her on how to be happy in America.
The advise they gave Tatyana was to find a good Russian boy to marry  and Steal everything  from her husband she could get her hands on.
The church advised Tatyana the only way she could stay in America and possibly gain
material and monetary support from her husband was to file Domestic Battery
charges.The INS will allow abused foreign wives to stay in America  where a divorce
before 2yrs  is an automatic false marraige and return to Ukraine.What Follows is
the letter prepared by attorney  for the INS  office located in Boise, Idaho.

Febrauary 2, 2008
Regarding Tetyana **** Resident card number A#057-189-321
Canyon County Case Number: CR-07-13413-C
Tetyana **** who is still on two year green card.
Tatyana Divorced her husband after 18 months of Marraige to immediately Live with
Her Russian Speaking Boyfriend. Tetyana was engaged to this boyfriend before divorce
papers had been filed. All charges of domestic battery against her Husband were dropped.
(Material Witness) Natasha Mote of long beach California has direct confidence of
Tetyana **** and has heard all of this thru Tetyana,s own lips. Life long friend
of Tetyana for over 22 years.Tetyana and Natasha grew up together in Nikolaev,
Ukraine .Phone number in Long Beach ****.She will not want to testify
against her friend and has passed all information along to Tetyana's husband via
phone conversations. Natasha's husband has money and has already indicated if
Natasha is asked to Testify he would send her home to Ukraine to visit her family till this case blows over.
Tetyana entered into a false Marraige December 3rd 2005, convincing her husband she
loved him but only wanting a visa to the United States. After her arrival in the
U.S. in May of 2006 she immediately set about finding contacts with the large
Russian Speaking community in Ada and Canyon Counties thru Russian Speaking Churches
in Meridian and the other Russian speaking people at the Walmart store where she
worked to aide her in gainning a divorce that would allow her to stay in the U.S.
Tetyana met Irena Rayburn in October 2006, while working at Walmart. Tetyana and her
husband attended several dinners and holidays at Irena,s house where Tetyana met the
man she now lives with and plans to marry as soon as her divorce is final.Tetyana
would see this man on the sly as often as possible back as far as January of 2007.
When the marraige seemed to Tetyana to be nearing divorce, Irena Rayburn, The Fiance
and Tetyana came up with a plan. Irena has been thru several divorces in America and
she and Tetyana both knew that divorce before two years is considered a false
marraige by immigration and the girl would be deported. They also knew that a charge
of domestic battery would allow Tetyana to stay in America and attempt to take
everything the husband owned in the divorce setting them up for a nice life in
America.The plan was to waite untill Tetyana got her secound green card in May of 2008.
When the husband confronted Tetyana concerning her affair with this man and stated
his intention to get a divorce from Tetyana in June of 2007, Tetyana immediately put
Their plan into action. She called the Police and had the husband arrested on a false battery charge.
While the husband was forced to stay away from his home under a no-contact order,
Tetyana and her now fiance (engaged to marry before the divorce papers were filed)
systematically emptied the husbands house of everything of value and destroy that
which they did not take against the instructions of the divorce papers filed in
June, before the husband could regain possesion of his house.
The possesions gained were spread out amongst the three conspirators.
This is a case of a Russian Speaking Immigrant planning the emotional and financial
destruction of an American for personal gain thru false marraige,false battery charges , theft and vandalism.

Horror Story #11 (Dec, 2007)

Hi Jim,

I wasn't scammed by an agency, but I married a Russian girl, (from Moscow) was married to her for 5 years, I'll never make that mistake ever again.

She makes American girls seem like the best girls in the world as far as I'm concerned.

You wouldn't, (or maybe you would) believe the things I could tell you about her.

I have met other Russian girls as well over here, I'm not even remotely impressed. I met one Ukrainian girl in San Diego, my home town, yes she was hot, no doubt about that, but she was a first class nutcase. She went on and one about how great she was, how she knew everything, how she helped people so much, how pretty she was, etc etc etc, I have never met any girls like that before in my life, an absolute nutcase!

My girl was a different kind of nutcase, the most selfish human being I've ever met before in my life.

I'm a good looking guy, very athletic, very smart, very successful, I'm no loser, my wife was 9 years younger than me.

The girl was the biggest slob I ever met in my life, and I'm not joking! She would NEVER clean, period, end of conversation! Jim, I know this is gross and disgusting, and I apoligize for telling you this, but she wouldn't even wash her own clothes, not even in 6 months. Don't believe me? Her mother would come visit from Moscow all the time and she would do her clothes for her, and clean for her, Natasha, my girl, would NEVER do it herself! Oh she could cook when she wanted to, and she was a good cook, and she dressed really super sharp all the time, no doubts about that, but she never washed her underwear.

Let me ask you a question Jim ok? Have you ever seen what a toilet looks like when you don't wash it for 6 months? I have, but until I met her I had never seen one before. Why didn't I wash it myself? Well, for one thing I got tired of doing that, for another thing she had her toilet and I had mine, hers was more filthy than you want me to describe to you, trust me.

Oh but she has the expensive clothes, expensive everything, but she is the most selfish person and the biggest slob I ever met before in my life.

I am so happy it's all over with now and I can finally move on with my life, you wouldn't believe the stories I could tell, from her giving herself bruises, calling the police and lying that I beat her up, to things I don't even want to think about anymore.

After what I've been through I would never in a million years look for a Russian girl, you can find a decent American girl if you look hard enough, and every American girl I've ever been with is a thousand times better than the Russian girl I was married to.

Very ironic, what I thought would be the best girl in the world turned out to be by far the worst girl I've ever met in my life, by a thousand times.

When I look back on my relationships with all the American girls I've been with, they all seem so good now, finding love at home is not an easy thing to do, finding love 10,000 miles away is basically impossible.

But there is nore to it then that. My girl for instance was a University Graduate, she studied languages and history, she spoke English fluently, she spoke Czech and Italian fluently. She brought with here some 500 to 1000 books, 50 boxes worth, something like one ton of boxes, cost like $1,500 to ship them to the USA.

In my perception, based upon what I could see, this girl was very intelligent, much more so then some ordinary girl, not what anybody in the USA would consider "trailer trash", right?

So how is it somebody like this could have such horrible filthy habits? From which planet did she come from? Have you ever met a girl like that here in the USA? I haven't, I've never met any girl even remotely close to that, on the contrary, girls here are very clean, at least the ones that I know are and the ones I go out with are and always have been.

And it's so much more then just her hygiene, forget that she needed like 5K in dental work, who cares, I'm talking about her personality, she could speak perfect English, understood every word, knew how to say virtually anything she wanted to say, yet she never talked. She never talked about anything of any substance whatsoever, she never would try to resolve problems in any fashion whatsoever.

She would go from being nice one day to the worse possible mood the next, like a constant yo-yo over and over again, it's not just tiring, it's maddening.

I was afraid of her, she would think nothing of calling the police and flat out lying through her teeth to get me into trouble, in total she called the police on me 3 times. Each time completely lying, the first two times that I beat her up, the 3rd time that I yelled at her.

If you met this girl you would think she is so sweet, so nice, so classy, so very very sweet, that's why I liked her. Not because she was super hot, she was a nice looking girl, I was 32, she was 23, I liked her because she was so "sweet", no very nice to me, and so smart.

Little did I know that it could be possible to be so different. I mean, don't get me wrong, I've been with some real winner girls, one of them was a hot blonde, very nice, but she was a tramp, loved to sleep with every guy, and make the previous guy jealous, got off on that.

But she never screwed me over, I mean, sure she slept with some other guy, even took off with him, but she wasn't stone cold hearted like my Russian girl was.

No American girl I've ever been with has been like her, not even close, she is like a walking plague, a radioactive candy that everyone wants to lick, all the while not knowing they are licking poison.

Many hot looking American girls are just stuck up, and they are what many would call "bitches", but this Russian girl goes far beyond any "bitch", she is a cunning, devious, malicious, cold hearted, no holds barred, screw you over and you better thank me and love me for it woman.

After having gotten a divorce from her I feel like I just got out of prison, now finally I'm a free man.

What was that story I read on your site? About the guy going to Ukraine, meeting with a girl, who chain smokes, drinks like a fish, and her bio said she did neither one, and him having to pay for everything while the girl takes the left over's and gives them to a worker at the agency, and then they leave in a car in which he again has to pay for, and he's left on the street by himself and he's thinking there is a big huge "sucker" sign above his head.

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!

I guess it's our own faults, we buy into the fantasy, and we have no idea what's about to happen to us, or what we're about to go through. If we want fantasy I think it's best we stick to Fantasy Island, cause the only fantasy you're going to find overseas is cold hard reality of how this world really works. Yes I could do it much better this second time around, but I know that even if you could find the right girl, there are so many other problems and expenses it's just not worth it. Better to find a nice American girl, one who you can date and get to know, one who has a job and makes some money, one who you'll find out in a year or two if you're relationship is good enough to get married.

From the stories I've read, from the Russian girls I've met who are over here in the USA, I'd have to say something is wrong with them. I did meet one girl, she was nice looking, not gorgeous, she had a daughter, my girl said she was dumb, but to me she seemed very nice, very talkative, very friendly, wanted to show me photos, smiled, she didn't speak English too well but you could talk with her, just not fluently like my girl or that Ukraine girl I told you about.

She is the only one I've met though that truly seemed like a nice girl, all the others were seriously messed up in my opinion.

I think the scam is not an agency, but the whole idea itself, these girls don't want to find a man to love, give me a break, they want a visa, a citizenship, they want money, and they think they are so great that they deserve everything. They think you should treat them like princesses, giving them gifts all the time, flowers all the time, doing everything for them all the time, giving them attention all the time, they give the term "high maintenance" a whole new meaning!

For me marrying a Russian girl was the biggest nightmare of my life, from the very beginning to the very end.

Now I look back on my relationships with the American girls I've been with and have great memories of them. Now I look at the girls who look back at me in the grocery store and think to myself, that girl is a good girl, nothing wrong with her at all, she is cute, she dresses nice, why not just go up to her and talk with her, ask her out, ask her for a drink, ask her for her phone number, what is she going to say? No? I can deal with a no, it's no big deal at all, in fact, it's easy, on to the next girl.

What on Gods green earth ever made me think of going 10,000 miles away, spending a small fortune on getting a Russian girl I'll never know, except of course to say it was the "fantasy", a loving, caring, feminine, intelligent, family values, type girl. Well guess what, that's very hard to find, and going 10,000 miles away with a different culture, different language, makes it a thousand times more difficult. USA is a big country, there are all kinds of nice friendly girls in this country, you can meet them, date them, have fun with them if you really want to.

I learned my lesson, I just wish it didn't have to cost me so much money, and so much of my time.

Horror Story # 10 (July, 2007)

Hi Jim.

Excellent site you have! I wish I'd known about it some years ago.

Anastasia or Anastasiya ****. Also goes by ****

Don't have an address or phone number anymore. Last report I got from a private
investigator said she was registered in Moscow but likely living with her mom in a place called Novgrod.

Miracle83@yandex.ru  so far as I can tell this email address is still active

She contacted me after I posted a profile on an international dating site in 2002. I
did do some research at the time and was aware of the usual stuff to watch for (too
good to be true, asking for money etc) and she did none of that. She even picked a
fight with me in an email relatively early on which was likely part of her scam.
This one is brilliant and knows how to play the game like nobody I've ever heard of.

Within a couple of months she convinced me that we were a perfect match and I should
come to Russia to meet her. Since it costs a fortune to take such a trip and I could
never have her visit me in Canada (visitor visa's are very tough to get for young
women from Russia) there was only one way for me to hang onto this perfect girl.. I
married her while I was there in December of 2002. The frequency of her emails to me
dropped from 4-5 a week to about 2 per week after I came back from Russia.

She quit her job 2 weeks after I returned home due to needing to devote all of her
time to dealing with the government there to fix a paperwork mistake (that she no
doubt intentionally made) on one of the application forms for a Spousal sponsorship
visa and some nonsense to do with her passport. I was in love so I accepted this
even though it set off an alarm bell. I started paying her way which at the time was
$300 US per month. She manged to continue to make mistakes that caused our
application to be sent back to me and this dragged on for 8 months before I was ever able to finally file the application.

She wrote me a long story about how a crack dealer who lived in her building tried
to break into her apartment threatening to kill her and thus she needed to move to
safer part of town so I paid for that and then of course her months expenses went up
to $500 US. In June of 2004 the embassy had scheduled a physical for her for
Immigration and she mysteriously came down with some disease the name of which I
could never get a result for that crippled and left her in bed for 3 MONTHS which
delayed the physical for 6 months. I bought her a computer at great expense which
she later sold to pay for some medical emergency for her mom and then demanded that
I but her a new one. Each month she found some new way to create additional expenses
that amounted to me sending her $750 per month on average with large sums in between
to cover things like trips to Moscow for multiple medical exams for Immigration, etc..

It took 3 years, 3 physicals, and approximately $40,000 US for me to finally get her
approved as somehow she kept making what looked like innocent mistakes on paperwork
and procedures to do with Immigration even though I explained everything to her
dozens if not hundreds of times. For 3 long years I kept shelling out the money and
waiting because she kept talking about this great wonderful future we were finally
going to have together when it was all over. When the approval finally came, she
made a seperate trip to Moscow to get her visa and then was to fly here to me a week
later. I sent her $2500 for the trip to get here. She emailed me the morning she was
supposed to arrive saying that they had not let her board the plane as there was a
problem with her visa but she was able to get them to give her another flight for
the same time a week later for half price so I sent her another $1500.

During that long long last week I was in touch with someone from the Canadian
Embassy in Moscow about this supposed Visa problem which they made very clear to me
did not exist. I forwarded their comments to her as evidence to use if anyone tried
to stop her from boarding the next plane ( out of last minute desperation to finally
have this dream come true ) and she sent me back a reply babbling about how I would
only send her such comments if I wanted to break her heart. That was the last I ever
heard from her and of course she was NOT on the plane when it landed here.

At this point I finally hired an investigator to go find out where she was and he
uncovered that she had been living a very different life than she had been telling
me. She had bought a car, and everything else that most Russians simply can not
afford to do on my dime and never said a word. She had left the apartment she was
registered to a week before she claimed to be taking the first flight here and never
gone back. She lived with her mom for that 3 years and although the PI found that
she told the government she would be living in Moscow, her mom was registered as
living in Novgrod and no trace of my wife was ever found in Moscow.

That is the extremely short version of the story. As a special ending, a judge
refused to grant me a divorce from her in Russia because she could not be found to
get her permission unless I agreed to pay him $500 US for this "service" of doing
his job. I told him no and as her visa is expired and she can't enter the Country, I
know I'll never have to deal with her coming to Canada, but at the same time I'll never be completely free of her.

She tricked me into coming there and marrying her so that I would support her while
she screwed with Immigration forms to make sure the case took as long as possible to
be finalized. This is to me the ultimate cold hearted scam. If any man anywhere can
learn a lesson from what happened to me, then I guess it was not for nothing.

There was never any agency involved in our contact so far as I know. She told me she
found me through one and then used an internet cafe to email me. I contacted an
agency to rent an apartment from while I was in Russia and their service was excellent.

It has been almost 2 years since this saga ended so I no longer have copies of all
the emails and money transfers. I do hope that you will still share my story and her
picture with your audience as this woman is a walking nightmare.

Sincerely,
****

Horror Story # 9 (June, 2007)

This story is not actually a horror story. It is very insightful. Click here to read it.

Horror Story #8 (Feb 2007)

Hello ... I married a woman from Ukraine Dec, 03.  To make a long story
short, I believe the marriage is a fraud and that she did so to get her green card.
 I can list chapter and verse what she has put me through.  Bottom line
...she has taken everything she can from me.  I am virtually broke.  I filed
for divorce last May 24th and got to court Dec 13th.  She said she would do it
easy... but that as well is a lie.  She is still trying to get more ... which I don't have.

I was postponed until Jan 24th so that I could get a lawyer/  Everywhere I
turned, I was denied.  I call USCIS and lodged a complaint that the marriage is
a fraud and why ... they said they would investigate but have heard nothing
yet.  I have until Feb 21st to go back to court with a lawyer.  She got one thru
Legal Services of Westchester-Putnam Counties so they turned me away.  I
am told they should not have done so, that they are ONLY a referral service.
And it seems HER lawyer will come after me for fees even though she is pro-bono to her.

Horror Story #7 (Jan 2007 - yet another familiar story about Ukraine girls. They don't only want a few thousands bucks. They want to marry, file abuse charges and get everything you have. )

I married **** in 1998 after we courted on phone for two months and she came to visit.  We married quickly. 

**** tried to commit suicide the third month of our marriage despite having no real reason other than to try and manipulate me.  Mind you she is drop dead gorgeous.   I had a son from a prior marriage and she began to treat him like a nanny.  I said "fake it until you feel it or we divorce".  She faked it and I thought she felt it. 

She immediately started using the system to have a baby.  She never asked me.  At a point she became so blindingly selfish and rude to my son that I told her baby doctor no more attempts until my wife got help.  The fact is she didn't want help.

She wanted a baby and to leave me. I thought this could be true as she would start arguments that really only she would have and blame me for anything that bothered her, only to use the word "divorce" all the time. 

Eventually she calmed down for a year.  I agreed to the baby.  The day he was born she said, "I cannot love your son anymore."

Imagine the horror that a boy that grew up and thought he had a mother only to have her stop loving him.  Later she said in bed one night, "I wish I only had one son".

Meanwhile we've been married 6 years now and I had spent in excess of 100,000.00 on her behalf over the years.  From two time shares, to extended warrantees on her car, to trip abroad to see her family in Ukraine.  I was the perfect husband.  When her Russian friend here in the US refused to throw her baby shower, I did.  So as I spent, she saved.

After our son (my second son) was a year old she filed a bogus Protection From Abuse order in Delaware on me.  I was out of my home where my business operated, my employee couldn't go to work and my first son couldn't go home either as she wanted nothing to do with him.  I had to live with my parents for four months while I begged for personal belongings from my home.  After four months I flipped the PFA as the courts learned the truth about her. Then I promptly began the process of vacating my PFA so we could get back to
trying to heal the family.  I did it for the children. 

During this next year I get anonymous faxes and text messages from her place of work JP Morgan Bank warning of her having an affair and a trip she moved up by two week coincided with a co-workers trip abroad too. 

Worse yet I couldn't catch her because I confronted her too soon.  Four months later she filed for divorce and went straight back to her plan of taking our son and living alone with him.  If you've seen the movie Loverboy where the mother wants just a child and NOTHING else in life, this is **** ****.  Eventually we wound up back in court where she gamed the legal system over and over even filing a PFA against my 75 year old parents in an effort to keep them away from their three year old grandchild for the next year.  They were found not guilty and the case was dismissed on it's merits and she is still clawing for the boy by lying to church congregations about me, and our history.   She did agree in cross PFA's with myself in December of 2006 to yield custody of our son to me and the house too.  However since then she swears she is broke and can't pay child support while buying $6,000.00 fur coats in New York and $1,200.00 foam mattresses among other luxury items.

I found out only two weeks before she filed for divorce she hyphenated her name three years prior without telling me. 

My point is this.  Duplicity can be a long term road a scammer will travel to get what they want.  I was told by her that she loved me and she divorced her last husband because he was in the Russian mob.  She has a bullet wound in her right arm to make that case.  But I really don't even know if she has a criminal record in Ukraine of if she is still married.

Now she is trying to get permission to take our 3 year old son to Ukraine for a "visit" and I'm fearful I may never see my son again. 

Good luck in who you meet and better luck in who you decide to trust.   I had warning signs all throughout but I am an American man with family values. My parents have been married over 50 years, I wanted that same dream to come true and fought for it only to find that a Russian woman that wants to scam you, will get you in the end.  She has sworn me as a mortal enemy and I must say I'm really afraid of her.

Horror Story #6 (May 2006 - The end of a long letter about a girl that kept requesting small amounts of money, saying 'I love you' and throwing up red flags left, right and centre.)

...Conclusions: 

Tanya is a real person. A person can get very attached via webcam. Tanya and I had made a connection because of the webcam, I believe it was genuine, I could see it in her eyes! I will never know, but my gut tells me she was talking to other men (as of yesterday she insists she was not and is not)..... I think we are both at fault. I wanted to believe in the Russian Bride fairy tale that is all over the internet, and she wanted to believe in the American Prince in the White Castle fairy tale that must be predominent in Russia.......but one thing is very clear to me. She wanted someone to support her and she didn't even feel obliged to say 'thank you' for supporting her. Imagine what it would have been like if I had trusted her and someday brought her to America!.........Gentlemen, wake up and quit smelling the Russian pussy! Fairy tales are for books and movies...............Jim, thank you for this website!!!!

Horror Story #5 (Apr 2006)

Jim,

I am writing on behalf of my brother, who for legal reasons should remain

anonymous for now. He met a Russian woman through a legitimate agency last

year. I will also not divulge the name of the agency although I can say that

your site reports it to be legitimate. Here is how the scam works and why it is so dangerous.

In my brother's case the woman he dated did ask for money to be sent to her

for various things including English lessons, dental repair and general

expenses. This is where it's similarity to traditional scams ends because

she did travel to the US and did marry my brother. This would seam to make

it appear legitimate however after the marriage ceremony everything changed.

First she showed no emotion or interest in my brother as a partner. She did

not kiss him back during the ceremony, and then she would not consummate the

marriage. She did have sexual relations with him twice before the marriage,

the first time in Russia when they met the second time in the US when she

arrived but before they were married. While here in the US she continued to

spend a great deal of my brother's money. Other suspicious behavior she

displayed included dropping his digital camera that he had been taking

pictures of her with in the water. When he brought memory disks to the photo

shop to have the photos developed but found out they had been partially

melted preventing the photos from being developed. She also attempted to

delete her photos off his computer. Other things she deleted were emails

sent to a friend in Russia and written in Russian. This is where it becomes

dangerous. After being married to became a different person and began

antagonizing my brother in a seemingly malicious manner. For instance she

did not simply refuse to consummate the marriage, she would instead tease my

brother by berating him and letting him know she would not have sex with

him. It seamed she was attempting to get him angry, possibly to get him to

become violent. My brother is NOT a violent person by nature so when her

attempts to get him to become violent failed she became violent herself. She

picked up his computer and threw it to the floor; she began hitting him and

scratching him. She even tried to gouge his eyes out with her fingers. She

attacked him to the point where he had to defend himself and then had him arrested.

Up until the point where she became violent my brother continued to practice

patience with her hoping to salvage what he thought was a legitimate

relationship. His patience was his own demise in the end because eventually

he was forced to defend himself. Now my brother sought to have the marriage

annulled but to no avail, his divorce attorney advised him that his state

does not grant annulments. He did find out though through his attorney and

through the agency that brought them together that recently this has become

a problem with a number of Russian women seeking to remain in the US without

honoring their marriage vows. There are a few other similar cases like his

in his own state according to his attorney and the agency has reported that

they are receiving similar reports about other women who did travel to the

US and marry the men who were courting them. It appears they are trying to

take advantage of a loophole in the immigration laws which state that if

they are abused by their husbands they cannot be deported.

The problem is that good men who are otherwise non-violent are being charged

with violent crimes against their spouse(s), some of which will spend time in jail or possibly prison.

My advice to any man who marries a woman from Russia who changes her

personality after arriving and especially after being married is to waste no

time in getting her out of his home. Do not try to salvage the relationship,

do not try to win her heart over, and do not give her the chance to accuse

him of being violent against her. These women know what they are doing and

have no intention of honoring their marriage, only to remain in the US and

they do not care who they hurt to do so. I further suggest that he not be

alone with her, especially when he moves her out of his home. If she

suspects she is to be kicked out she may become violent in the hopes that he will have to physically defend himself.

Please if you could post this warning for other men to see, post it as an

urgent warning for the men who might be experiencing a problem such as the

one I have described. Also if you have any information on similar cases

please forward it to me or tell me where I might find it. These women must

be getting their information on how to do this somewhere and if I can find

just one source I may be able to save my brother from being further victimized by this woman and by the system.

I am not including any pictures or the name of this woman yet for fear that

doing so could appear to incriminate my brother. If you can assure me that

it is safe to send her information I will be happy to do so with my

brother's permission. (Although she attempted to delete her photos and email

from his computer she forgot to check the trash bin)

Thanks, ****

Horror Story #4 (Dec 2005)

I met my Russian Wife through an internet web site around 4.5 years ago. We traded a lot of emails and after some time I started to phone her … Her English was perfect, she was very intelligent and we had great communication.

I invited her to the UK and arranged a week abroad to allow us to get to know each other better and relax in good surroundings.

I have to say I was impressed with almost everything about this woman and after further visits to the UK (which I paid for) she explained that the only way to actually leave Russia permanently was through marriage. I eventually asked her to marry me. She accepted and she moved to the UK .

At first all was well ….Then …  the complaints started and the demands grew. Nothing was good enough, everything was wrong, I couldn’t do anything right. The personality change within just a few months after the wedding was unbelievable. She offered no communication or cooperation to resolve issues, her complaints just kept on coming.

I mentioned Divorce on a number of occasions in the hope that it may jolt her into resolving problems rather than ignoring them but the word “Divorce” had an adverse effect as the complaints intensified and the problems in our marriage reached another level.

My life had become a mess, I couldn’t stand the atmosphere any longer and I called to see a solicitor for advice then onto the local Court to collect Divorce papers in the hope that once she realised that I was serious she may start to communicate and make some attempt to help me to sort out our lives and save our marriage. Nothing happened, no reaction, no response …nothing!

I contacted the UK home office for guidance and advice on the situation as her visa had little time to run on the initial 2 years marriage visa and was instructed that I could not sponsor her for the renewal of her visa to gain “indefinite leave to remain “ visa status unless (a) the marriage was subsisting (b) we intended to live together indefinitely as man and wife. I was warned that if I didn’t comply with the immigration rules and signed her visa application I would then be committing a criminal act and could face very serious charges with possible imprisonment as a penalty.  

Friends were now coming forward claiming that she had told them that the only reason she came to the UK was to prevent the Russian Army from conscripting her son and to provide him with a better education in the UK . I didn’t enter into the equation for her wanting to come to the UK at all.

I felt very cheated, disappointed and used. I couldn’t believe that the detraction on my life had become so severe and painful when I should have been the happiest man in the world having found what I originally believed to be the most fantastic woman I had ever known.

I had no alternative but to file for divorce on grounds of unreasonable behaviour and I filed the papers with the Court accordingly.

Within a few days of the Court Bailiff serving the divorce papers on my wife I was arrested by the Police on allegations of domestic violence! I was thrown in a cell, detained overnight, released on Bail the following morning and told to go home. I dare not go home for fear that my wife may add even more false charges to the 3 she had already alleged.

The charges she made are false and without evidence of any assault, no medical proof ….nothing! But as soon as allegations are made the Police provide the RW with a paper stating they had made an arrest then she can self petition the Home Office for a permanent UK Visa.

I have pleaded not guilty to all the allegations in the local court but the “domestic violence industry“has now jumped on the band wagon and wont let go. So now I have to go to high court and face a full jury and if found guilty of a crime I didn’t commit I could face a terrible penalty and have to pay all costs, lose my job, self respect and financial ruin. 

By the time this reaches a conclusion it will be almost a year of stress for me yet it  appears to Russian Women that no length or suffering is too great to get a UK visa they simply see the Legal Loophole as a means to an end to get a visa rather than go back to Russia .

I am amazed that it is so easy to get information on “What to do if your husband doesn’t sign your visa” which are openly illustrated on the internet including the British Home Office website. They virtually tell them what to do to get the visa to stay in the UK .

Be warned, that despite how beautiful these women are, and how attentive and good natured they seem. The visa is paramount in their mind and once they have used you to get it, they will either move on amicably or file for divorce taking as much of your estate as possible with them! A husband may deny them the visa through a divorce within the initial 2 years of the marriage but do so at your peril!!

I have read stories very similar to my own from people in Australia and America, I just wish to God that I had seen them before I married, and maybe I wouldn’t be in this terrible situation now.   

Horror Story #3 (Nov 2005)

Jim,

I wrote you a few months ago with my horror story and divorce from a

russian wife.  You've probably read thousands of mails since then but I

still wanted to give you a follow-up in hopes the  info. could help

someone else or reveal some info. you haven't already heard before.

The now ex wife wanted to claim abuse here but thought the attorney

would cost too much (she is an attorney). She went back to Russia and

filed for divorce.  I received the russian divorce decree with english

translation and apostille so it is finished.  She began looking for  the

next husband before the divorce ended and got married to a UK guy two weeks ago.

I sent all my fraud allegations in the form of an affadavit to the UK

embassy, US Embassy, USA Immigration field office, and the UK

Immigration office.  The UK office said they will investigate but most

probably since the marriage is already registered they won't do anything.

The "ex" went from me... a western professional with high education (me)

to the UK guy that had no high education and was a day laborer.  Age of

husband two was within two years of my age.  

I wrote a 19 page letter to the former russian relatives (handwritten

russian).  Of course they were offended as I knew they probably would

be.  I will always be the foreigner so they thought all I said was lies

and couldn't believe their relative or her  mother would ever be

dishonest.  They think of me now as a pile of feces or "a creature from

the lower regions."

The same reason I went to Russia to find a wife still exists. The family

structure in the West has collapsed along with morality.  I even looked

at a couple of russian women sites again and then immediately thought

about all the personal hurt I just went through. I immediately went to

your site and read through the horror and divorce pages again. It was sobering. 

Thanks so much for your page and the information you provide.  If

anything, it seems too optimistic.  It would have been my life's dream

to find one of those "super sweet" girls with non-russian character you

mention but Russia is a big haystack and I only have one lifetime to

find the needle.  Certainly, it's not enough time to sort through all

the deadbeats.

Sincerely, ****

Horror Story #2 (Oct 2005)

Ok. About 2 years ago I met a lady Sasha Grigorieva on the Internet thorough **** agency.  We met and she applied for visa and passport.

Once we were approved she did not want to return home  to Kafkas for the 4 month wait? I rented her a flat in Portvino near  Moscow.

We came to Colorado 4 months later and her first words were "why is your house so small, where are the servants?"

Then within days a lot of Russian people started calling and coming over to visit her. She said they are friends who happened to move here. 

(yea right) We had to get married within 90 days after landing here. Sasha, her son

Yaroslav and myself went to Las Vegas and got married. Eight days later she was gone.

No sign of her except she has contacted 2 of my neighbors with a Russian

attorney  seeking  someone to say they saw us married. (the neighbors refused/not enough proof , you must live with sponsor)

The victim here is the little boy Yaroslav, who just wanted a dad; also heard the little boy spent a month in hospital because of this.

I.N.S  was called and I did get an annulment. I.N.S said this happens all the time and do not be surprised if she claims that you beat her to 

stay here. (since annulment means marriage never existed).

Horror Story #1 (summer, 2005)

My name is **** and here is my story.

I lived and worked in (big Russian city), Russia for 5 years at the  ****,

a Canadian Russian Joint Venture. I meet a lot of Russian women there, fell in love with one and

brought her back to Canada where we married and worked together After 7 years of being together, 5 years married, she left me 3 times

with only a note on the table. Her and her young son (not mine) flew back to Russia twice with one way

tickets 4 weeks after leaving she would

 phone me and want to return to me, being the big dummy that I am, I sent money for return tickets. Dec 21, 2005 she left the third note,

 Three months before she receives her citizenship, she now lives with a Russian man in British Columbia, Canada .  

She never called for 3 weeks, when I finnally found her, she wanted to return, but only if I drove there to pick her up. I have sent 

out the divorce papers already . This was not a agency scam, I worked with and lived with her in Russia for 2 years before we moved to

Canada . I do believe that it all has to do with culture and Russian mentality.  

The only advice I have to any men looking for wives is stay away from Russian women. Keep your Money and Heart, because they will take

both. Any comments that you have would be great appreciated.  

Here is more; In the 5 years in (big Russian city), I know of at least 10 men who took back

Russian brides; now of the 10 marriages Only one is still married and as 2 children

3 men including my self, wives have left but are still in country, with citizenship,

the other 6 men, all their wives went back to russia , most went just for a visit,

but never to return The sad thing is most of these guys had to divorce with their Canadian/

US wife first, before marrying the Russian. I personal, was not married before going over

None of these were agency meetings. The women are all sweet and gorgeous, and fun in bed, but do not trust them

They all have a serious chemical imbalance.  

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